While I was interning at an ICT firm in 2015, in fulfillment of the compulsory 6 months Industrial Attachment for undergraduates, I met a man in my neighborhood who showed me an unprecedented dimension of love.
He was a “danfo” bus driver.
He would rise very early in the morning to go about his transport business. His route was the same as mine. I’d go through it before boarding two more vehicles that’ll take me to my office.
So every morning at 6 am, I’d leave my house to meet him at a particular place. I always sat in the front seat of his bus while other passengers joined us on the way.
Due to one reason or the other, it wasn’t every day I went with him. Nonetheless, he dropped me off about 60% of the entire duration of the internship.
Throughout the days I joined him on that ride, never for once did this man take a Naira from me. It was a whooping 17KM ride daily. You can imagine how much it would cost for 60% of 6months.
I wasn’t used to such nice treatments. I wasn’t comfortable with it. So a couple of times, I tried to pay him. He refused bluntly and was quite offended.
Remember The Love You Received
Soon I realized it was a rare gesture of love, a gesture only a few persons can show me. He really touched me in a strange way.
I resolved that as long as I’ve got breathe in me, I’d never stop paying that man for his kindness towards me. Humans are the most ungrateful set of creatures I’ve interacted amicably with.
Treat a dog well for a week, it will love and protect you. Tame a beast give it meat daily and it will never allow any harm befall you. Capture a bird, feed it for a month and it will come back to you even if you set it free.
But humans, give them a million dollars today, they will pay mercenaries to hatch your downfall tomorrow. Ungratefulness is the voice of a man that shouldn’t be trusted.
A lot of us have failed to look back to see how far we’ve come and those who helped us arrived here. We are quick to remember those who hurt us, those who broke our hearts, scammed us, treated us badly.
But our minds are too clouded to remember those who showed us one form of kindness or the other. There is one list I think everyone should have. Just one list.
It’s not a list of places you want to visit or goals to achieve. As good as they are, there is another list you should keep as a matter of necessity.
It’s a list of those who showed you unusual love at one point in your life or the other. It’s a list of those who held your hands and stood firm when everyone else deserted you.
It should contain the name of that girl who gave you 500 Naira ($2) to complete your school fees when all hopes were lost.
$2 is small right? But there was a time you didn’t have it and that girl spared hers for you. The list should capture that 15-year-old boy who comes to your house weekly to watch your clothes and tidy up your house for free.
Have you forgotten the man who trusted you and stood as your guarantor to secure that job even though he didn’t know you? I bet you’re no longer in touch with that woman who believed in you and gave you your first shot in your career when others looked down on you.
What about that friend who sat by your sickbed daily, taking care of you despite the fact she had exams to take? You’ve forgotten them, right?
It’s easy to forget subtle things of this nature and easier remember the ones that hurt. Everything you’ve achieved was through people. At every stage of your life, you need “THE GIFT OF MEN” to progress unto the next stage.
You can boast on your hard work, but look intently, and you’ll discover there were people who helped you build the bridge to this pavilion you are standing on.
It’s only wise that you should appreciate them.
Appreciation is the bedrock to securing and maintaining relationships.
Just Do More
“THANK YOU” IS NEVER ENOUGH
You’ve got to do more if you’re in the capacity to do so.
No one is asking you to rob a bank to show appreciation. No.
Come on, you may never be able to pay everyone a dollar note each for the love they showed you.
But your prayers can do wonders for them. A heartfelt prayer once a month or even 6 months can cause heaven to turn their lives around.
A little gift with a short note can bring tears to their eyes. One call or SMS can carve a smile around their faces. If you don’t know how to give back, more may not come.
You just have to remember and be grateful. If they are no more, you can bless their kids or relatives instead.
King David understood this principle that was why he blessed Mephibosheth in honor of his friend, Jonathan. A man who forgets how others labored to drive him far shouldn’t expect others to remember his love towards them.
Unknowingly, he will close the door of opportunity against himself. And he will be called, “the man who remembers nothing.” Consciously, get that list and you’ll be shocked at how much you’ve forgotten and those you’ve neglected.
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